Even if the truth is ‘yes’, which answer do you think says “I love you” more? I’m sure the vast majority of you, men and women, are now thinking that surely the answer you should give and the answer you want to hear is “no". Well you are wrong.
We have been brainwashed into think that relationships are about being avoiding trouble, minimizing friction, staying in the good books, ...etc., in short, about being careful rather than carefree, about being selective with the truth rather than always honest, about not revealing what you’re really texting your friends, and ultimately about not being your true self all the time.
Once you go down that slippery slope, the end, which is where over 90% of long term couples are, is a place where you have invented two avatars that can pleasantly, carefully and diplomatically communicate with each other in a PC approved manner. If you are happy with this, great, but never complain by saying “how come we don’t laugh anymore?” “why does it feel as if the honeymoon period is so long ago?” “where did all the fun and passion go?” “when did we become the stereotypical bored couple just getting on with it?”. If you want to avoid going down that well trodden path, then hold your head up and answer with pride and a cheeky smile “oh yes, it’s big, and that’s why I love it". Saying “yes" is in essence you saying “my balls are mine, I’m not ready to give them up and lose the person you fell in love with. I am honest with my closest friends, that’s why they are close friends, and you are my closest friend. Therefore I’m not going to belittle you or patronize you or fear you. If I do, I will lose my equal partner with whom I want to devour life, not just shyly tiptoe through it”. This applies to men and women. Love is about the loving seeing your partner be fearlessly honest.
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